Why talk to your children about sex?
Talking about sex and relationships with your children as they grow up can help them to look after their sexual health when they start having sex.
See Talking to your teen and Talking to your child for ideas on how to discuss sex and relationships.
It won’t make them want to start having sex. Here are five good reasons to be open about sex with your child.
Your child wants the facts
A recent survey found that one in four (25%) teenagers feels confused, worried or even scared about sex and relationships, and that most teens would like to talk to their parents or carer about it.
Teenagers see images of sex in films, magazines, newspapers, adverts and on television and the internet, but this doesn’t mean that they know the facts. They may be receiving confused and inaccurate messages. You can help them to know what’s true and what’s not.
Talking helps them to wait
Evidence shows that if you talk to your teen about sex and relationships, they’ll feel less pressure to have sex, which means they’re more likely to wait. Talking openly gives them the confidence to approach the topic with a boyfriend or girlfriend in the future.
It helps them make decisions about sex
By ensuring that your child knows about contraception (the methods, how they work and where to get them) and safer sex, you’re helping them to make choices when they decide to have sex.
You’ll help them to avoid taking risks that could lead to unintended pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Every teenager should know about contraception and safer sex, whether they’re a boy or girl, lesbian or gay, straight or bisexual.
Chlamydia is a real risk
Chlamydia is the most commonly diagnosed STI. Seventy per cent of girls and 50% of boys who are infected have no symptoms. If left untreated, chlamydia can cause complications, including fertility.
Your teenager needs to know that condoms help to protect against infections such as chlamydia and other STIs. They also need to know where to get tested. A simple urine test or swab can detect chlamydia, which can be easily treated. Find sexual health clinics in your area.
You can be the person whom they trust
Once in secondary school, your child will be going through puberty and hearing half-truths and myths from other kids. They might think that everyone else is having sex, but the truth is that most teenagers don’t have sex until they’re at least 16.
This is a great opportunity to become someone that your child can go to for information, help and advice.